要不要告Racial Profiling可咨询律师。祝好。

一个建议：找一个朋友一起和CAS那个寄养家庭(就是那个在负责照看你孩子的人)；当面询问
孩子的大便情况，这个过程让朋友也听到，然后你们回去记下来，将来他/她在法庭上作证对
方说过关于孩子2周没大便没得到解决；这个过程越详细越好，比如是他们自己注意到孩子
没大便还是你告诉他们的；他们采取了什么措施，在哪里看的医生等等，这个都记下来，让
你那个朋友也知道过程，将来愿意作证；然后立刻找CAS的负责人，指出他们的陈述里，对
孩子照顾不周的证据，比如，3天才注意到孩子没大便，不知道如何帮，看医生时间太晚等；
并且告诉他你有朋友在旁边都听到记到，然后让这个负责人先解决大便问题，限期2天，并且
准备在法庭上SUE他们。这个过程，如果之前能找专业律师资讯一下将更好，他或许能给出
更合法有效的建议。

关键的关键，冷静，说话做事都要冷静，绝对不能意气用事，事到临头，要忍得，否则你
很可能丧失抚养权；现在不要计较邻居了，现在你是在和国家机器打交道，让他们出错，你
不能再出错，然后你才有机会扳回。

那个电影也是很惨的, 这种机构中有很多黑暗面, 里面的孩子们真的很惨...
我好希望能帮一点忙, 哪怕跑跑腿我也愿意...如果有需要, 请让我知道...最好哪个律师能帮帮她...律师律师费大家可以凑...

我非常理解这位妈妈的心情,你真的很坚强,现在的当务之急,是给孩子把便秘治好,其他的还有时间,一步一步解决.不去医院,你可以直接去药店,SHOPS DRUG MART 有一种药,是非处方的,但效果很好,你买了,直接去给寄母,让她给孩子服用.我给我儿子用过,效果很显著.白色的瓶子,口服液,有个绿色草的图案,是黑色的液体.说明上印了:for constipation

If they have hundreds phone calls a day from the Chinese community asking the case, I am sure they understand they have to take you seriously.

本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛找MP是馊主意，CPP的事情你也找过吧，他们对于司法程序究竟有多大的干预能力，你也该指导了。凡是进入司法程序的事情，只有律师能帮你，哭倒在青天大老爷面前，不是这一架国家机器的运作方式。

霉体更不要找了，只会给你帮倒忙，这里的未成年人保护法，犯罪了都不能曝光姓名，要是给无良记者曝光了孩子的隐私，弄得满城风雨，法官冲这一点，就可能把孩子从你身边带开。需要一些安慰，这样用马甲上来问一问就很得体了。

CAS带走了孩子，应该是有法庭令吧，否则就成绑架了。还好啦，你依然有探视权，情况不算太绝望。

事到如今，一句话，舍不得钱财要不来娃。关键在于你怎样说服法官，让他相信你当时是正常的spanking 而不是abusing，加上孩子还乐意跟你回家，估计你就赢了。不过CAS的律师一定会千方百计地证明你是个虐待成性的母亲，让法官相信CAS才是最佳的监护机构。他们还会套孩子的话，孩子是不会撒谎的，他的证言在法官面前也最有分量，如果你平时体罚孩子较多，就会有麻烦了。

记得Spanking在这里也是允许的，不过有几个原则，一、徒手，不能用武器；二、打屁股不打脑袋；三、不能留痕迹。犯了任何一条，被告了官，Abuse基本就成立了。但是别慌，就算偶尔的Abuse，也不一定会失去监护权的，只要没有造成身体伤害，改了还是好同志嘛。有些课程如Anger Management，律师可能会叫你去参加，这坛子里许多家暴男都参加过，可以问问他们。另外，对方律师还可能要你出示精神健康证明，例如没有Depression等，前些日子北边无助的女人杀了两个女儿，估计现在的法官都不敢掉以轻心了。请注意，总和人唠叨家庭不幸，是很容易让人联系到Depression的。

不知道你已经联系了律师没有，如果还没有，我想提醒你，时间拖得越长，对你越是不利。你失去孩子那么长时间居然不兴讼，法官基本上要认定你不care孩子。另一方面，孩子在别人家时间长了，乐不思蜀，到时候不乐意跟你，这才真是惨。

现在不是说钱的时候，什么没有保险啦，CPP啦，福利房啦，让人觉得你care这些和care孩子一样多。好好珍惜探视的机会，维系住母子真情，唯有这一点能给你加分，他如果能在法庭上抱住你不撒手，哪位法官能不判给你。

CAS那帮东西，从来是成事不足败事有余的，安省就有个极端的案例，小男孩因为顽皮淘气，给吃了多年的精神病药物，好好的孩子给整傻了，最后也没听说是谁的过错。你认为孩子不拉把是大事，人家认为虐童更不能容忍，就这么简单。更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net

第一，英文信里面通篇的black woman，犯了种族主义的大忌（对不对先不管了，反正是个忌讳）。

第二，人家法院已经给她文件了，说孩子给foster家庭管六月月。那就同意嘛，六个月不长阿。

阿拉对这位母亲虽然万分同情，但不能不说，她的态度是有问题地。不了解当地的法律和文化不是她的错，但拒绝了解就不对了。

无论是从官方，媒体，还是法律援助， 公共舆论，一定要给children's aid society施加足够的压力。

小孩只是某机构和X养人的向政府要钱的户口本(他们比我们懂的多如何钻空子冠冕堂皇要钱的路子). 赚大钱的生意谁到想做久些, 他们是一群闻到腥就要喝血的..... 这就是这里的社会表面祥和无比内里奸猹的特点!! 这也是我在这多年的体会!

如果要请愿什么的，我也会参加的，我现在就去google邹至蕙议员办公室电话，希望明早可以联系到她的工作人员，总之不要着急，我们大家一定会尽力想办法帮忙你母子团园的。

本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛1) Getting a signed letter from the boy's teachers stating that she is a good mom, and always has been; It is useless to ask poeple to make anonymous phone calls without proven identity;

2) Provide more details around the circumstances for that night: It was late night, the child was upset, she did not know the neighbour very well, why would she let the neighbour take the child away. Other details may not be easily understandable by the judge as well: why would she open the window at night in October - it can't be that hot, why the boy did not wear any clothes, why would the sound that big to disturb the neighbours downstairs. The red mark is the key. The lady needs to prove that it was an ACCIDENT, instead of intentional!

3) Show case that she is really capable of taking care of her own child. Feeling or even looking depressed (Xiang Lin Sao or alike) will only make things worse. Be strong, be trustworthy, look tidy and clean, be brief and logical when explaining her case: to the point.

4) Find some relatives that are willing to take custody of the boy as a short term solution更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net

我同这位母亲上午通过电话,她已经疲惫极了.想象一下,在同样的情况下,她身边没有家人可以分担她的焦虑,光是这一点凡是有点同情心的人就不要雪上加霜了.多给点实质的帮助吧,帮不上就抱抱给份理解和支持吧.
就算这位母亲有对孩子行为失当的地方,大家也先救下孩子再批评她吧.可怜的孩子呀!寡母不容易呀!
个人觉得便秘的方子根本现在对她没帮助,她连孩子都见不到,在哪里都不知道,见了面她也无法对孩子做什么.
大家还是提供律师的电话和专业意见,对母亲的实质帮助更大.

1，你一定要找律师，好的律师。
2，我建议你写一点书面的东西，从这件事发生的那一天开始，以日记的方式把事情的发生写下来，不要漏掉任何细节，关于你怀疑他们那天给孩子用药的事情也要写下去。如果怕英语不好的话就用汉语写，这里有的是英语好的人，再帮你翻译过去可以了。这个纪录我相信会在法庭上有比较大的作用。
3，收集证据最重要，每次去看孩子的时候带朋友一起去，每次带不同的朋友。网上不认识的朋友也可以，甚至是记者。不熟悉的人的证词在法庭上比较有力量。如果必须的话还可以请私家侦探。
4，我不知道现在有没有大家在捐款给你，无论是请律师还是干什么都是要钱的。没有的话就赶快找相关的人弄一个。
5，千万不要停止抗争，千万不要对cas心存幻想。

当务之急是要把孩子弄出来，不能放在鬼子家里，可以要求把孩子寄养在认识的华人朋友家里。

本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛Further Advice
Hi. There.

First, I am not in a position, and other posters as well, to judge whether you rely on any social assistance. How you manage your finance and your lifestyle is your freedom and none of everyone's business. I wish my fellow peers would stop questioning you. What you need is support and advice from us.

However, this is the Canadian value that children are vulnerable and cannot protect themselves, so state intervention is necessary. You said you did not abuse your child, which can be arguably right, but in Canada, the focus is on parental ability to protect. A parent may never abuse his or her child, but if the parent cannot provide a safe environment to the child, state intervention is a must.

You withheld a very important piece of information. According to a Chinese newspaper this morning, you have criminal court hearding scheduled for November 23. If this is correct, you were investigated. Were you charged with Assault, Assault Causing Bodily Harm or Assault with a Weapon? Were you released on an undertaking or a bail? With or without conditions?

Again, it is not my role to judge. My only agenda is to provide my advice to support and help you.

Let me predict what will happen to you:

1. For the criminal charge or charges, make sure you observe the conditions, and dont breach them; otherwise you will be arrested, tossed in jail and further charged. Usually, a case like this will come with a no contact order, which means you can't see your child unless approved and/or supervised by CAS. This condition is a major barrier against reunion. We will have to do something like counseling, anger management and parenting education in order to apply to court to have this condition lifted; otherwise the child cannot return. If you plead guilty, this condition will become void, though there may be further conditions in probation, if any.

What will happen to your criminal charge? That depends on the extent of your child's injury. In most cases when a child suffers from mild injury, the parent who inflicted the harm, will receive either a conditional discharge (with evidence of progress of counseling) or a probation sentence (with conditions and recommendations for counseling). Only under extreme circumstances a parent will be jailed, but I have seen it.

2. For your CFSA hearing (yes, you have 2 court cases, which is confusing to a lot of new immigrants), Toronto CAS will have to prove based on balance of probabilities that you cannot protect your child who is at risk in your care. You have to prove you have adequate parenting abilities that your son will not be at risk. Given your criminal hearing remains outstanding, your CFSA hearing may drag on for months. Toronto CAS is asking for an order of Interim Care and Custody and if the court finds the child in need of protection, then a Society Wardship order will be granted. The maximum time allowed is 12 months for those under 6 and 24 months for over 6, from the date of apprehension; otherwise, the child will become a Crown Ward. Though CFSA will change effective November 30 this year and it will become more lenient, it is more difficult to ask your child back after Crown Wardship.

I gave you some advice yesterday, but given the new piece of information (criminal charge), I would like to modify my advice:

1. Stop all complaint procedures. A client cannot complain if there is a court hearing outstanding. The rationale is not to influence the hearing. You can complain about the health condition, however, given the media attention now, your son must have seen a doctor already. In my 20 years of experience, in most circumstances, children are well looked after physically by CAS. Emotionally, it is another ball game. CAS can never replace a parent to meet a child's emotional needs.

2. Go for counseling, anger management and child management training. I would recommend Chinese Family Life Services or if you speak English well enough, Elizabeth Fry Society. Learn something for your own good and as evidence for your court cases. If you have done these and get good progress, you stand a good chance getting a conditional discharge and your child to return to you.

3. If you find a friend or a relative the child knows to care for him, propose a kin service or kin care plan. Toronto CAS is obliged to response within 30 days. How to develop a kin plan requires good skills and knowledge, so plan well with social support, before proceeding.

4. Do you feel stressed or mentally disturbed because of the mishap in the past few years? If so, you should consider a psychiatric assessment and treatment. Go to Hong Fook, which is a good agency.

5. You need 2 lawyers, one of criminal court and the other for CFSA court. You can apply for legal aid. Very few Chinese lawyers specialize in child welfare. I have dealt with some of them who don't know how to manage a child welfare case, which a waste of money and time and may jeopardize your case.

6. Ask the CFSA court to appoint a lawyer to represent your son. The court may reject the request because your son is too young and may not be able to express his wishes. In Ontario, child over 12 is considered a legal party and under 12 not ready to express independently.

7. Ask for visit. Usually, CAS will allow supervised visit and then move up to unsupervised visit, before weekend overnight will happen. This will take a while because they are observing you and your mental stability and parenting capacity. Don't argue with them. Spend the time with your child. Feed him with Chinese food and play card games with him during visit. If you can't organize a visit, how can they trust you to organize your life?

8. The last and not least, a crisis is also an opportunity. Let go the past. Seek help for yourself and your son. You still have a long way to go. If Canada is not the place for you, go back to China (no big deal). If Canada is good for your son's development and future, be brave, and stay against all odds. We being Chinese will give you help and support unconditionally.

The last question is about your son. Does he have any behavioural problem or any special needs? This may affect your strategy.

One more time: good luck and all the best.更多精彩文章及讨论，请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net

真tmd气愤，我认为在加拿大有好多机构已经失去了当初创建时的意义，有的甚至阻碍了社会的发展，除了上面提到的CAS，还有一些工会。他们为了自身的发展或生存，或者为了证明他们的价值，经常主动找点事、闹点事。真应该考虑一下，是否要取缔他们，或是重组他们。